Tell the teacher! Don't help her at all, don't tell her how to do things just say since you wanted the job you should know how to do it. tell him that it's her fault that it didn't work and she doesn't even know how to program it.
Confront her!! If you never talk about it, than she wins. She'll get away with it which will only encourage her. Tell her you know she's talking behind her back(She'll deny it) and you want her to stop. if you can ask someone that she talked to about you and get proof from them. That way when she denies it you can say Ashley(Or whoever) told me you said it.
Next time she brags don't act like you care and if she starts to brag a lot about it say "Okay I heard you the first time" or "It's kinda rude to brag so much" something along the lines of that. You need to say something that you can't get in trouble for but still makes her feel bad.
And be careful with this one but if she says "that doesn't mean youre smarter than me" you should say "I know, just in math I am" and if she fights just shrug your shoulder and tell her it doesnt really matter and she doesnt need to get mad about it. And if she says "that doesn't look too hard" say "Actually it was" or "you don't have to act jealous.
Now here's what I REALLY think you need to do.
Go to the counselor! I had "friends" almost exactly like her, they'd get jealous, talk behind my back and turn people against me. and guess what? they got ME i trouble for things i didnt do. In the end they lost. I left the school and all everyone misses me and knows they drove me away.
But tell the counselor about whats shes done. She'll be on your side and talk to the teacher about the robot, she'll call down your friend and she'll stop bothering you.
It might make your friend like you less because you got her in trouble but she won't bully you anymore because she'll just get in more trouble.
And YES THIS IS BULLYING.
but do not compliment and do go to the counselor. Just trust me, if I could go back in time once, I would change me not going to counselor when i should have.
I hope things go well for you <3 good luck.
You need to confront her, but it doesn't necessarily need to be dramatic. You're clearly smart, so I'm sure you can find a reasonable way to approach your friend. Start by just asking her why she told people the project failure was your fault- don't place any blame on her for the gear (unless it comes up naturally), just focus on getting an honest answer. There's a good chance that she assumes you're secure enough in your intelligence and abilities that, in her mind, her actions don't have any significant affect on your emotions but still make her feel validated and less responsible for mistakes.
Don't get me wrong- it's crappy behavior, but it's not unusual and she probably doesn't realize it's bothering you as much as it is.
She's not your friend anymore- she sure isn't acting like one. You should find another friend and just ignore her for now- she is too jealous.
she isn't your friend.
When the robotics coach sees the disaster, he/she will know that you are not the problem.
Okay. Here's what happened.
My friend, who used to be really nice, is now acting seriously competitive and jealous. It's been gradual- I've noticed she's begun to hate me for some reason.
One thing I'm really good at is math. I'm in advanced math, I'm on the math team, and I won lots of competitions, but this particular friend of mine is actually pretty bad at math. Every time someone congratulates me, she gets all jealous and says things like, "That doesn't sound too hard" or "just because you're in advanced math, doesn't mean you're smarter than me."
When did I say that? When?
Whenever SHE accomplishes something, however, like a dance competition, she brags and makes a big deal about it. I'm happy for her and all, but I don't want to hear every detail of it and how she "completely destroyed the other teams with her amazing talent."
Not bragging myself or anything, but I'm sort of the smarter one in my group- the "nerd". I do get teased, but I'm known for being smart and all that. However, my friend is now copying that, too. She is suddenly pursuing all of my interests.
Now, we're on a robotics team together. I do the programming and she does the building. At the competition, our robot failed- because of a broken gear, which was her fault. However, she spread rumors behind my back that it was MY fault because I programmed the robot wrong. WTF? YOU built it wrong?
She seems to enjoy talking behind my back, actually. She calls me a know it all and a poser (ha!). I don't really care, but it slightly irritates me that she is acting like this all of a sudden.
Now, my robotics coach truly does believe it's my fault and is letting my friend program and build, leaving me with doing minor things like sorting out the legos (not a bad job, just a demotion). The thing is, however, that my friend doesn't know a hell of a thing about programming? "What the hell is Javava?" she asks.
No joke. Javava. I nearly cried.
What should I do with her? She's probably insecure... I freaking hate this drama. Should I compliment her so she doesn't steal my life and stuff I'm good at?
P.S. She's now trying hard to get onto the math team I'm currently on. She got into advanced math this year (one level ahead of regular while I'm four ahead) and she thinks she's swagger.
Advice?
-Sincerely, annoyed
